Nine Reasons Why Being Honest With Yourself Is Important by Lisa Lieberman-Wang

Most people define themselves by a “collective public opinion,” and are therefore disconnected from themselves. If you have this tendency, you may not even know why being honest with yourself is important.

Self-deception starts early. Children at play are actually children at work, busy observing and making conclusions about themselves and their environments.

Every approval, disapproval, gesture of inclusion or rejection leaves its mark as a “survival code” that remains embedded into adulthood. And those children will ultimately grow up to “lie” about how the psychologically painful realities of childhood affect them as adults.

​The unsustainable message of “perfection equals love” scrambles for its own survival in a myriad of sneaky, unhealthy ways. Denial, rationalization, projection, emotional reasoning and other forms of self-deception become natural ways of dealing with life. But they only lead to increased pain and regret.

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