People Aren't Checklists by Reyna Noriega

Perfection, the ultimate goal. We all want it. We chase it. And we’re disappointed when we don’t get there. But hasn’t life taught us that nothing in life can be perfect? It can be good, really good, but never perfect. Don’t we appreciate the summer heat so much more after a long hard winter? Don’t the daylight hours make us nostalgic of the cool calm night?


Why then do we believe we can keep searching for the perfect partner?


Life is fluid, the only constant we can count on is change and yet we stick to this image in our head of what our ideal partner will look or be like. We form lists in our head of what the perfect person will say and do to give us a hint that they are "the one". 


He’ll be kind, a good listener, ambitious, and laugh at all your jokes.


She’ll be beautiful, never complain, cook, and let you hang with your friends.


What is the appropriate scale by which to measure your significant other? If love is about kindness, acceptance, and trust how can that be measured by some sort of checklist? If we are looking for how well someone matches up to our expectations that would lead us to look out for and take note of the positives vs. negatives rather than accepting the person as a whole. It will have you comparing this person to your past or the haunting ghost of your expectations.


And don’t we all just want to be enough?

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